a fun post.. not all of this is true

I Lie down on the grass, green and serene in the Louis Kahn Plaza, as i write this piece that i don't know what shall be. the moon is there - a full moon and it reminds me of so many faces, sound and beautiful, all lost to the vagaries of life. Pretty much like the moon that fades behind the dark clouds. The majestic buildings stand tall and firm having seen battles and Earthquakes- battles of a corporate and academic nature. The moon peeps on me from between two clouds and as i look back it hides behind the cloud and a cool breeze embraces me in congratulating me on my victory over the moon. The cool breeze and the lovely but rainless weather take me to my own self inside.

The structure stands firm having seen and endured many a battle and earthquake. Yet the bricks are all tattered and old. A new fabric is needed and a new look to the structure over due. the metamorphosis (this is the year of the metamorphosis) is proving to be painful and surely a test on many accounts. Patience is just one of it.

I lie down and look at the vast sky and huge clouds above, ready to fall on me. My heart knows no fear and it knows not a friend either. My hears sees beyond the clouds into outer space for it is like the outer space - distant , dark, remote, existing but never seen or realized. Person after person that i have met and friend after friend that i have failed reminds of the expectations (that died long back) i had that someone will understand my heart.
People closest to me have had no inkling of what is happening within me or why? Where i am floating and on what? The search for my own self has become a pursuit of the self of others. I know the moon feels no joy in the sky when clouds fly by and it is lost to the breeze and games of nature. i know how inspiring the moon is and how it is capable of bringing tides to the mighty oceans. i wonder if some celestial being ever asked the moon , does it want to do so?

Every night it sets out. Lovers of the world feel that it is there to remind them of romance, inspire the poets they feel, to predict the weather the meteorologist thinks and for the kids to hear fables and fairy tales. having done this why does it need to move out again the next night on the same path and night after night in a seemingly never ending pursuit. Maybe it just wants to ensure that all is well with its beloved, somewhere, she might be.

seeing me write about itself the shy moon has hid behind the clouds and i lying on the grass in LKP (Louis Kahn Plaza) amidst the tall buildings and distant trees feel like falling in a big deep pit... of eternity and oblivion... in a world of my own.

The Value System of the Media... are they opinion builders or scam creators?

how many times as a 14 year old did i think my parents were curtailing my freedom and strangulating my creativity and expression...i guess once almost every week...
how many beautiful 14 year old girls have guys queuing up to "patao" them.. in the age of today talking of 2008. i guess more than 80% of the 14 year old girls have someone flirting with them..
how many professionals in high stress jobs do not like to take stress home and discuss with some colleague who can understand it irrespective of whether the colleague is male or female? i guess about 70 % in metros..

you would be wondering why am i writing all this where the title suggests that it should have something to do with media. well I'm talking about arushi talwar and Dr. talwar and the family. AND

HOW ASHAMED THE MEDIA SHOULD BE AT ITS ROLE...

given the figures i estimate above and a lot of people agree (yes i have informally surveyed this with my friends..) so given the figures above.. i never found reason or rationale enough to frame Dr. talwar in the whole affair. and the finger points at only one direction for the same. THE MEDIA.

it was the media which wanted to show evidence and circumstantial information on the TV before even the police had gone through it.
it was the media which thought that probably having read enough detective novels they could play sherlock holmes this time ..the reporters went into elaborate analyses beyond the "expert" investigators that they got on TV in explaining how and when Dr. rajesh talwar had killed his own 14 year old daughter....can those reporters today stand in front of a crowd on thousand odd people one side and the talwar family on the other and beg forgivenness for the trauma they have inflicted.

just because some 20 something year old reporter reads the wrong magazines and stories. s/he thinks that a doctor in a detective novel should have an extra-marital affair and it would shock the people most if the father killed the so young and delicate daughter. i wonder if they think the same way about their own families and friends.. id be happy not to have some such friends..

a media which is responsive to society can also do business seems to have been erased from the memories but what remains is a business that can also manage the media. sadly enough the latter is true for the times i have to lift a newspaper and watch a television.

the first day Dr. talwar had been indicted by the media i was stunned.. i remembered the arguments that i had with my parents in my teens and i knew a father cant hurt a child without reason but these are not the values that the media believes in . it seems to believe in incest, homicide, murder, motive, fraud, scam and scoop more than anything. i ask "what are the values of the media?"

last but not the least.. i turn my attention to the family.. a mother and a father who lost a darling child after 14 years of nurturing her in this world where values are askew and in turn get blamed for nothing short than murder.. a 60 day trauma of being in jail for Dr. talwar and he has only his wife.. and the two are separated on two sides of the jail. in the loss of a child the husband and wife so much need each other and the media ensured that they had no such avenue to come to terms with the loss. i wonder if there is an avenue where we can put the media on trial and yet i rest that idea cause the trauma for the family has only now begun. they still have to come to terms with the loss of a teenage daughter while for the media the story has ended.

may god bless the departed soul.

a lily of a day is fairer in may.....

ECONOMICS OF PEOPLE

I have thought about writing this many times but then people are not what i relish writing about so i always let go of it. However this recent new experience makes me think twice about doing that and here is a post.

Well its about how economics is applied to daily life in our interaction with people.

When two strangers meet and a common platform is discovered to keep the conversation going ..initially there is a lot that they have to discover about each other .. these are new things and facts or projections not known earlier by one about the other. As such the marginal value returned by every added moment of interaction is pretty high and as such there is a desire on part of both to spend more and more time with each other. As such it is evident that a lot of time is spent together and some exceptions are made in schedule. (the given graph is from http://www.davidfriedman.com)

As more time is spent with each other, more facts and aspects are discovered about each other and the new things to learn keep on reducing unless new experiences are created. What this means in practical terms is that the focus needs to shift from learning or talking the past to the living the present and building the future. If that does not happen then the incremental learning from new facts decreases as they are linked to now known facts and also the probability of coming up with a fact not now already known reduces. In economical terms the marginal value added by every moment of interaction goes down. Asuch the incentive to spend more and more time with each other goes down and new options are sought priorities are reset , the exceptions disappear, and what some people call it as "distances creep in".

So next time this happens in your or our life don't worry .. don't fret about it don't feel cheated it is a perfectly rational approach in the larger frame of bounded rationality.

In simple humanitarian terms the economics of people is about a utility function of deriving added value.. in other terms its plain utilitarianism.