Now that i am all set to marry in less than a fortnight's time.. i can share this piece.. not that i could not have shared it earlier but then .. No one would have believed me.. and.. even now some are not going to believe me but then that's what this is about the coincidence of being believed and not being believed because people live by their own beliefs.
As a young bachelor ( i am not so young any more lols for many people ) there were coincidences of coming across beautiful maidens and vying for their attention... only to be saddened that most of them lacked the charm to hold attention beyond a particular duration and if they did hold the attention .. they lacked the simplicity of being "my types". it's about such coincidences that bachelorhood is about .. and not just in India but the world over.
Being an open guy who could say what was inside me .. only made things difficult and coincidences more common. here are some funny and not so funny experiences.. which reflect the times in which i lived my bachelorhood.
Two ladies treat me to an ice cream and cold drink each (for some long overdue favour ) and ultimately steer the discussion to ask "are we beautiful?" and sadly enough all that i could reply was "No Comments" .. (the bachelor was trying to be a Gandhian at that point of time) . Coincidence taught me later on .. if you want to Brew a relationship.. it pays to be non-Gandhian or else you as a matter of coincidence you need to have super -patience.
A girl is narrating a tale to me about herself and her friend and asks me "its like you and me and we know that we will not think of each other in an amorous way.. . right we wont?"...lo ls and not by coincidence i wonder what was the question.. will we or will we not ? and months later she says do i feel as if i am getting feelers from her .. cause someone else she was talking to thought so.. lols.. only by sheer coincidence could i feel the feelers someone else was feeling when she was talking to him. absolute ROTFL.
A girl tells me reasons why i would probably not get married so easily.. and repeats the same ones for herself and then asks me "don't we have a lot in common ?" .. i wonder is it by chance or design ? and whether we have a lot in common or we lacked a lot in common ? maybe it was just a coincidence....
i admire a girls dress and tell her that her dress looks beautiful and she asks me back "is it my dress that looks beautiful or me ?". coincidentally to her dismay i answer in the affirmative for the dress.. and then to make matters worse as a matter of coincidence she asks me why not her ? and i have to answer cause i cant see her at all .. the dress is all i can see ... she thinks this is the case for some other reason when all i meant to say was that the dress is so beautiful that i don't see anything else. lols.. Hail bachelorhood.. it coincides with peoples attempt to discovering the wrong meanings of your words, phrases, clauses and sentences.
i was travelling in a train .. the family on the opposite side had two daughters.. they were promptly pushed to the window as i sat towards to aisle. about five hours into the journey a discovery is made that i am about 10 years elder to them and they are allowed to change places and then five minutes later on it is known that i am still a bachelor.. and they are soon sitting cornered to the windows :) whatay coincidence to my bachelorhood.
I used to live in this small town in Gujarat called Anand and one day i meet one of my neighbours outside my bank and they introduce me to a boy .. a nephew who is in town from New Zealand.. and i wonder they have never introduced me to any nephew before.. in the late evening as coincidence will have i discover he has a sister who is to be married off....and i wonder who is more desperate for marriage "the girls parents and relatives" or "the bachelor"
I am travelling in a train and offer the seat next to me to a young girl who is standing since long due to the crowd. We hardly talk or speak and as the journey is about to get over ,she asks me if i want her phone number ! Is that coincidence or is it NOT!!!
Bachelorhood coincidentally changes the meanings of numbers.. my orkut list at a point in time had about 600 friends out of which 450 were male and 150 were female , linked had about 400 contacts out of which 70 were females and facebook had about 200 contacts out of which 60 were girls.. and yet coincidentally everyone seemed to think that i had too many females on my lists !!!
Another strange coincidence of Bachelorhood is that people remember the names of females who are your friends and the poor males are ignored and forgotten . Now this must be a coincidence.
However the high point of Bachelorhood in 21st century is being asked if i was married ..and then the next question is "how many children do you have"..i pointed out that i was unmarried and i was told that in the modern world you didn't need to be married to have children. and i wondered why they asked about marriage first and children later on and why not vice verse.. i guess only coincidence can explain this.
diclaimer: i am sure most of what i present has been experienced equally by women as well .. so bachelorhood is used in a much broader and gender neutral sense here.