how many times as a 14 year old did i think my parents were curtailing my freedom and strangulating my creativity and expression...i guess once almost every week...
how many beautiful 14 year old girls have guys queuing up to "patao" them.. in the age of today talking of 2008. i guess more than 80% of the 14 year old girls have someone flirting with them..
how many professionals in high stress jobs do not like to take stress home and discuss with some colleague who can understand it irrespective of whether the colleague is male or female? i guess about 70 % in metros..
you would be wondering why am i writing all this where the title suggests that it should have something to do with media. well I'm talking about arushi talwar and Dr. talwar and the family. AND
HOW ASHAMED THE MEDIA SHOULD BE AT ITS ROLE...
given the figures i estimate above and a lot of people agree (yes i have informally surveyed this with my friends..) so given the figures above.. i never found reason or rationale enough to frame Dr. talwar in the whole affair. and the finger points at only one direction for the same. THE MEDIA.
it was the media which wanted to show evidence and circumstantial information on the TV before even the police had gone through it.
it was the media which thought that probably having read enough detective novels they could play sherlock holmes this time ..the reporters went into elaborate analyses beyond the "expert" investigators that they got on TV in explaining how and when Dr. rajesh talwar had killed his own 14 year old daughter....can those reporters today stand in front of a crowd on thousand odd people one side and the talwar family on the other and beg forgivenness for the trauma they have inflicted.
just because some 20 something year old reporter reads the wrong magazines and stories. s/he thinks that a doctor in a detective novel should have an extra-marital affair and it would shock the people most if the father killed the so young and delicate daughter. i wonder if they think the same way about their own families and friends.. id be happy not to have some such friends..
a media which is responsive to society can also do business seems to have been erased from the memories but what remains is a business that can also manage the media. sadly enough the latter is true for the times i have to lift a newspaper and watch a television.
the first day Dr. talwar had been indicted by the media i was stunned.. i remembered the arguments that i had with my parents in my teens and i knew a father cant hurt a child without reason but these are not the values that the media believes in . it seems to believe in incest, homicide, murder, motive, fraud, scam and scoop more than anything. i ask "what are the values of the media?"
last but not the least.. i turn my attention to the family.. a mother and a father who lost a darling child after 14 years of nurturing her in this world where values are askew and in turn get blamed for nothing short than murder.. a 60 day trauma of being in jail for Dr. talwar and he has only his wife.. and the two are separated on two sides of the jail. in the loss of a child the husband and wife so much need each other and the media ensured that they had no such avenue to come to terms with the loss. i wonder if there is an avenue where we can put the media on trial and yet i rest that idea cause the trauma for the family has only now begun. they still have to come to terms with the loss of a teenage daughter while for the media the story has ended.
may god bless the departed soul.
a lily of a day is fairer in may.....
4 comments:
In day before yesterday's Times of India, the paper apoligised to the Talwar family for whatever litte role it played during the reporting of the case.
Is't it upto the Judiciary to decide who is guilty and who is innocent? Looks like everyone is in as much hurry to acquit Talwar as they wer to convict him. The same tendency - but in reverse. By the way, how is it that it is always the servants and never their masters who are guilty? Look at Pandher - it was all the servants fault apparently. So convenient.
dev: great to see the media coem up forward like this. i am usually very critical of the times but i guess its not as bad as i make it out to be.
ranjith : well said and i agree with what you say ....the tendency to acquit... nah you misunderstood the blog...i wrote about a belief and you make only a tendency out of it.. you are still caught up with making someone a pointer at who is responisble.. i was at a more abstract level of what is responsible...i wanted to highlight human values and not the lack of it.. unfrotunately ur comment still speaks of the absence and not the presence.. we find what we seek someone in china had said thousands of years ago.
The day Rajesh Talwar was arrested, I said to myself and to everyone who was at earshot distance - Mr. Talwar is not guilty. Reaction came not because I knew case facts (which I didn't), but because what I saw was a madness in ways things progressed. It looked so out of sync with what felt natural and right and good. Its not a question of either being idealist or romantic, but of being moral.
I understand what u said in this entry, and support it.
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